As a fraternal twin, I am totally against dressing twins alike. Sure, Anthony and I were pretty cute being dressed in the same clothes until we were about 4 years old, but after that I wanted to be my own person.
One of the stereotypes of being a twin is that you like to dress alike, which in my case is untrue. Anthony and I always had a similar style but we avoid wearing the same exact thing on the same day.
I recently asked my parents why they dressed my brother and I the same and they said the main reason was so they could always find us if we walked off and so we could be easily identifiable. My mom also said because we deprived her of sleep every night it was easier for her to dress us up the same (our punishment for not being good babies).
I personally think once twins reach the age of four, they should be able to decide for themselves if they want to dress the same or not. By dressing the same it deprives twins of being individuals and expressing that individuality. It also can cause the twins to become co-dependent on each other for everything including how to dress. Personally, I don't want to be that 70 year old twin that still lives with my twin brother and we still dress the same.
So what do you think? Should twins be forced to dress alike? Leave your comments below and let me know what you think.
Friday, October 31, 2014
Thursday, October 23, 2014
Cons of Having a Twin
In my last blog I discussed the benefits of having a twin, but I haven't always felt that way.
Growing up I always felt compared to my brother and it felt like a constant competition when we were around our family. It always bothered me when Anthony would get more attention than I would for doing something great like a piano recital or winning an award. It's not that I wasn't happy for him it just was annoying when my family would sit in front of us and rank our accomplishments as to whose were better. I would always feel that I needed to one-up my brother at all times.
It also bothered me how I always had to share everything. It didn't get bad until we got older when we had to share our first car. I constantly had activities and practices after school so I got the car most of the time, but every once in a while the car would be magically gone when I got out of practice. It was annoying to say the least.
I also always hated wearing the same clothes as Anthony, which I'll talk more about in my next blog post. Despite all these setbacks, growing up with Anthony wasn't too bad.
Growing up I always felt compared to my brother and it felt like a constant competition when we were around our family. It always bothered me when Anthony would get more attention than I would for doing something great like a piano recital or winning an award. It's not that I wasn't happy for him it just was annoying when my family would sit in front of us and rank our accomplishments as to whose were better. I would always feel that I needed to one-up my brother at all times.
It also bothered me how I always had to share everything. It didn't get bad until we got older when we had to share our first car. I constantly had activities and practices after school so I got the car most of the time, but every once in a while the car would be magically gone when I got out of practice. It was annoying to say the least.
I also always hated wearing the same clothes as Anthony, which I'll talk more about in my next blog post. Despite all these setbacks, growing up with Anthony wasn't too bad.
Sunday, October 12, 2014
Pros of Being a Twin
Someone recently commented on my blog and asked me if I had the choice whether to be a twin or not, if I would still want to be a twin. After some thought I think I could not imagine my life without being a twin. Sure there are disadvantages, but there is something special about being a twin.
There are a lot of benefits to being a twin. When we were younger Anthony and I developed a trust amongst each other which still exists the older we get. It's not really something I can describe very well but because I've known Anthony my whole life I know we have a mutual trust in each other to always be there for each other (well most of the time anyway).
Growing up with Anthony and going to school with him always gave me a sense of security. I know whenever I felt lost or needed a friend, he was always there for me and could relate to what I was feeling. This really helped when we started high school and we basically knew no one except for ourselves but having him there made me feel comfortable.
Because we played sports together growing up we got to experience the sense of victory together which made our bond stronger. Especially in high school tennis when Anthony was my partner I knew I could count on him and winning united us together. On the rare occasion when he lost match I'll just say it was not a good day to be at our house. But through winning and losing it gave us the relationship we have now, which is a close one.
Now that I listed some of the good points I invite you to come check out my next post which will talk about the disadvantages of being a twin.
There are a lot of benefits to being a twin. When we were younger Anthony and I developed a trust amongst each other which still exists the older we get. It's not really something I can describe very well but because I've known Anthony my whole life I know we have a mutual trust in each other to always be there for each other (well most of the time anyway).
Growing up with Anthony and going to school with him always gave me a sense of security. I know whenever I felt lost or needed a friend, he was always there for me and could relate to what I was feeling. This really helped when we started high school and we basically knew no one except for ourselves but having him there made me feel comfortable.
Because we played sports together growing up we got to experience the sense of victory together which made our bond stronger. Especially in high school tennis when Anthony was my partner I knew I could count on him and winning united us together. On the rare occasion when he lost match I'll just say it was not a good day to be at our house. But through winning and losing it gave us the relationship we have now, which is a close one.
Now that I listed some of the good points I invite you to come check out my next post which will talk about the disadvantages of being a twin.
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